Many people call me and tell me that they want couples counseling, but their partner is unwilling to join in the effort. Instead, the partner might say, “I don’t NEED counseling. You are the one who NEEDS it.” As a San Diego couples counselor, I am quick to point out that relationship dynamics are always co-created. No one person is to blame. No one person is the one who NEEDS it. Besides, people who point at others as the one who is the problem tend to be extremely anxious. One typical sign of axiety in a relationship is the tendency to blame another rather than the ability to “see” your part in what has gone wrong. At my practice in Mission Valley, I accomodate working couples by taking evening appointments. I also see individuals and couples on a sliding fee scale. It is my fervent belief that psychotherapy, whether for an individual or for a couple, is an experience that requires the courage to look within. If you want to learn more about my resiliency-based model of practice, visit me at http://www.Cunninghamtherapy.com or call me at 619 9906203.
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