Lessons to Our Daughters: What is Demi Moore Teaching Hers?

In my private practice in San Diego, I work to provide quality services for marriage counseIing, relationship counseling, and individual psychotherapy. Oftentimes, I listen to young girls and women of all ages obsess about their weight, their appearance and their disappearing youth. I try to provide a safe holding environment as they work to relieve themselves of the social pressures to be the prettiest, the skinniest, and the sexiest version of themselves they can create. I coach them to make their life purpose revolve around less superficial and dangerous values.

As today came to a close, I had a moment to reflect upon society’s demands to value appearance over substance.

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Affordable Relationship Counseling: Helping Your Child Survive Your Divorce

Roberta M. Gilbert, M.D. wisely observed that “Consistently responsible parents, attentive to their principles, their adult relationships, and connected to their youngsters, rear responsible children” (Connecting wth Our Children: Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World, p. 36). In marriages that are characterized by chronic conflict and/or increasing distance, the odds increase that the children may become less and less responsible as they become increasingly symptomatic witnessing their emotionally immature parents bicker and battle in front of them. The children of warring husbands and wives can often get “caught” in the maelstrom of marital difficulties. Indeed, it is extremely challenging for children to witness fight after fight…to experience the consistent chill in the air…the ongoing and escalating tension between parents thick enough to be cut with a knife. The wounds that are inflicted upon children as emotionally immature parents continue their struggles with one another and move toward divorce are deep, longlasting, and can leave a multigenerational legacy.

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